Whether you’ve recently ended a relationship or have been alone for a long time, there are both upsides and downsides to being single. But, regardless of how you feel about your single status, one thing is certain: you are available again. And, if you’re like most people, it implies you’ll find love again one day. So, until you do, here are five things you should do.
Find yourself
Understanding what you like and what makes you happy is the quickest way to a successful, healthy relationship. While you’re single, take the time to discover yourself. Learn what you enjoy, identify your objectives and aspirations, and make a list of your top priorities. Make sure that any future relationships provide you with the freedom to be yourself and achieve your goals. There will always be some give and take, but be sure you know where to draw the line.
Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there
Every day, meet new people or learn more about the ones you already know. When you don’t have that special someone in your life, it’s easy to feel lonely and sad. That is why talking to people at work, the shop, or the gym is a fantastic way to stay sociable without feeling pressured to have a relationship with them, as you would feel on an actual date. Try to be friendly, and open-minded when it comes to meeting new people.
If you have friends who are in a committed relationship or are married, ask them to set you up on a date with some of their single friends, and make a fun double date. Nothing takes the pressure out of a date as having someone else there – no awkward silences, no uncomfortable questions – just four people casually talking.
Get online
Online dating has come a long way. It is so convenient and easy for busy people. You may not have the time to socialize and meet new people. So, why don’t you try a dating service? Agencies specialize in matching you with your ideal partner based on your preferences and personality features. They take care of the hard work so you don’t have to. You should not waste valuable time if there is no connection or spark with someone.
Using a dating agency in Sydney to find the perfect match should not be difficult, and you should feel excited and thrilled about meeting someone whose likes and dislikes you already know, and have a lot to talk about with.
Know what you want
No better time to focus on what you want in a partner than when you are single. Sometimes we fall in love with the wrong type of person, but we get so caught up in the honeymoon stage that we don’t recognize it until years later when we’re in a bad relationship or with someone who doesn’t make us happy.
So, to know what you want, start with what you don’t want. Try to analyze your past relationships, and jot down what went wrong – maybe one side got jealous, or there were too many misunderstandings or just general miscommunication. Maybe someone cheated, and if so, why?
When you put on paper all the things you do not want in your future relationship, what you want will become clearer. Maybe you will not know exactly what you want in a relationship, but you will know what you are unwilling to put up with.
Do the activities you love
Now that you have some more free time to enjoy by yourself, get back to the things you liked doing. Is there a hobby, or a place you’ve always wanted to visit, or a new food that you’ve always wanted to try? Now is the moment to take action and get out of your comfort zone. In doing so, you might just meet the love of your life.
It’s nearly inevitable that as soon as you begin participating in new hobbies, or activities and doing the things you enjoy, you’ll meet someone who shares your interests and is a wonderful match for you.
Being single is not the worst thing in the world. It allows you to better know yourself, and have a better view of what you want. Hopefully, this list will help you achieve both.
Article by Jasmine Anderson
Jasmine is part of Alejandra’s Life Family Team
