As you get older – especially if you are a woman – there is usually only one question on everyone’s lips: When are you having a baby?
Most people ask this question in complete innocence, with no idea of the effect that such a simple question has just had on you. They don’t mean to be insensitive when they ask you about your dreams for creating a family of your own: they simply are enquiring as to whether you have plans for a little piece of immortality.
The thing is, whether they intend to be insensitive or not, fertility is a very private thing to ask about. It’s also a very private struggle for those who are unable to conceive – regardless of the reason.
Finding hope when you’ve been secretly trying for months is not always easy. There are places abroad you can attend like Medical Travel, where you can get IVF treatment and scans to figure out what is going on and help you to take that next step with your family.
There are many tests and trials you can go on to help you to understand why you haven’t fallen pregnant yet. The problem is that you’re feeling despair about the entire situation.
When you’ve done all you can to conceive a child for months on end, there is very little hope, and all you want to do is give up. Biology has failed you, your body isn’t working as nature intended it, and therefore, something must be telling you that you shouldn’t have a child. Right?
Wrong. Absolutely wrong. If you want – no, crave – a child, there are so many ways that you can create a family. If it’s medically and physically impossible for you to carry a child, you have surrogacy and adoption. You can try ICSI, IVF, and IUI treatments.
You can try keeping fertility charts and taking supplements. You can try charting your temperature and peeing on ovulation sticks to ensure you’re even ovulating. There are so many people who get pregnant at the drop of a hat, but just because you weren’t one of those fortunate people, doesn’t mean that this is the end of your future hopes for a mini you. All it means is that you have to work extra hard to find your way.
Infertility is not something easy to talk about, but when those people ask you about your dreams for a family, instead of putting them off and suffering in silence, you need to bite your lip and blurt. Blurt the struggles and the worry and the fear you won’t have a child.
You won’t embarrass yourself. Instead, you’ll gain unbelievable support and understanding.
We shouldn’t be hiding infertility. You are not defective or somehow failing the universe; you just need a little more help than others.
The support is out there, but you won’t know until you speak up and tell people how you are feeling. Be brave, and you will be successful in the support from friends and family.
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