All relationships go through a rough patch at some point or another. If you’re experiencing one in yours, it’s time to acknowledge it and tackle it.
This way, you can overcome issues, let go of stresses, and have a more positive relationship and day to day experience with your loved one. Here are a few steps that can help you to achieve this!
Acknowledging Problems That Cannot Be Overcome
First and foremost, it’s important to acknowledge that there are some issues that can’t be overcome and that you shouldn’t attempt to overcome.
Nobody should ever tolerate any form of abusive behaviour in a relationship. This isn’t to be “worked on” or “overcome”. It needs to be walked away from as soon as possible.
If you are experiencing physical abuse, mental abuse, emotional abuse, financial abuse or any other unacceptable behaviour in your relationship, it’s time to develop an exit strategy. Of course, it can be difficult, intimidating or even scary to try to leave these types of relationships. So remember you are not alone.
There are a number of charities, support groups, helplines and more who can help you through this.
Identify the Source of Your Arguments
If you’re arguing all the time, it’s important to ask yourself what these arguments are really all about? What’s sparking these negative or hostile feelings?
By identifying the real issues at hand, you can resolve them and – in turn – resolve your arguments. Some common causes of arguments in relationships include:
- Money worries – money can place a lot of stress on a relationship. If you are unable to pay your bills, you may find yourselves arguing over it. But often, there are short term slutins, such as rearranging your payment dates or taking out Payday loans or other forms of lending to bridge the gap between bills being due and being able to pay them. If you are arguing about existing debt, you should come up with a financial plan to get out of debt and stick to it.
- A lack of trust – if you don’t trust your partner, you need to ask yourself why. Is it due to something they’ve done? If so, can you move past it? If yes, you need to let things go. If not, you need to look at what else in your life has caused trust issues. Is it a past relationship? Is it something from childhood? Here, therapy could be a good option to get to the bottom of things and resolve trust issues.
- Responsibility – both partners need to take an equal load of responsibilities in a relationship. Whether that’s over childcare, chores, bills or anything else. You and your partner need to find a balance that allows things to work.
These are just a few pieces of advice that can help you to identify and deal with problems that may exist in your relationship.
This, of course, isn’t a comprehensive guide. But it should help you to get off to the right start!